Monday, September 30, 2013 | 10:12 PM
I don't really watch TV much these days, and even when I do I don't remember the names of the cast. So everytime people mention a famous actor/actress, I always go, "Who??"
1. Jayma MaysYup and those are my few! Haha actually mainly the first 2, Cumberbatch was a bit of a stretch.
I Googled "Glee cast" then found her name in the wikipedia article. Besides the first few episodes of Season 1 and the youtube clips, I don't actually watch Glee. But I liked Jayma Mays character, and I think I fell in love with her when I saw this video:
She has a very cute accent, and isn't it adorable when she says, matter-of-factly, "And that's how I knew he loved me" because he ordered her the fried sampler or something? I remember the part where she talks about them "aging" in the movie they were acting, and how it was a profound moment for both of them in their relationship and imagining their future together. That was sweet and profound. They are awesome together! The thing I love about Jayma Mays is that she's sweet, but there's also this energy about her that makes her so lively and lovely. I would want to meet her in person for that reason!
2. Hugh Grant
I love it when people have twinkly eyes that sparkle when they smile. It's like the smile really reaches their eyes. That kind of twinkle is hard to fake, so you know they're being genuine! Hugh Grant is the actor I remember most for having that twinkly, crinkled eyes smile. And also for his natural acting.I want to meet him because the twinkly eyes and crinkly-faced smile makes him look very friendly and kindly.
It's hard to believe they're only acting and not actually in love with each other, and not acting all silly without being able to help it. I think that's the mark of a good actor - when his actions and looks are so natural that you completely buy into the story.
I remember Hugh Grant for his appearance in Love Actually because he plays the dopey-in-love part very well without overdoing it. He's silly but likeable, and still able to pull off the whole Prime Minister thing. I think Anne Hathaway and Keira Knightley are pretty talented actresses because of their versatility, and ability to bring life to any role they play and make it their own.
3. Benedict Cumberbatch
He's such a natural Sherlock Holmes that it's hard to imagine him as any other character. It's like he defines the role. With his curly hair, pale skin and a tone of voice that exudes Sherlock confidence, Benedict Cumberbatch = BBC Sherlock Holmes.
I can't say he's the guy I would have pictured when I read Sherlock Holmes stories, but I can't imagine any BBC episode without its main character. In addition to all the physical bits he carries off in his own way, he is very much in character with his cool demeanour, incisive, scornful and witty remarks, and maddening indifference to everything non-crime related (maddening to everyone else in the show, that is). The thing I like best about this Sherlock is that he is very much real because he also surprises you as a character. Which is what real people do in the world - do things out-of-character at spontaneous moments. I remember one scene where he suddenly bursts out laughing or shows an unusual burst of emotion, and I found that spontaneity and emotion so human and yet completely in character. He was Sherlock on an off-day, as the show called for, and pulling it off very well. To be "out"-of-character and still believable, that's the mark of true talent. P.S. If you think the movie is good, you should watch the BBC series. Spoiler alert: After you watch the BBC version, you'll never go back to watching the movie series with the same eyes. Lol actually I wouldn't want to meet him, but it would be cool to observe him in real life. In real life = watching him solve crimes as Sherlock (ironically).
Labels: author: stella, celebrities and stars, lists, themed entries
Saturday, September 28, 2013 | 12:15 PM
When I saw this topic only 1 person came to my mind.
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| This man, he ages like fine wine. |
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| As the rightful king in The Legend. My heart melted a little every time he appeared. By the end of the show it was a puddle. |
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| That body. Not too bad for an old guy (41? 42? this year, though I don't think that picture was taken recently) |
I was crazily obsessed with Bae Yong Joon in Sec 3 or 4, can't really remember. That was around the time I watched The Legend, and boy was it amazing. He was amazing. A few months after that I went to watch Winter Sonata, the film that shot him to stardom (and earned him the reputation of the auntie-killer -- to which my friends referenced when I was labelled an auntie for being crazy about him). It was a great show but I still preferred (him in) The Legend. He may not be the most handsome guy but he's too charming. And the voice. Ohh his voice. Meeting and hugging BYJ is on a bucket list I put together years ago.
Everyone else is secondary, actually. There are many stars I admire but never had the urge to want to meet them. The closest I guess would be Jay Chou, since I've actually entertained in my head the story of a girl who befriended Jay Chou and got free tickets to his show from him directly (ha, ha).
Hm, Colin Firth might be a good choice. I loved him for his role as Mr Darcy in BBC Price and Prejudice. Ooh, that demeanor.
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| From haughty elegance... |
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| To kind benevolence. |
I really loved his character. How proud he was, and how he put himself down when he realised he loved Elizabeth. How much pride he must have forsaken to confess to a girl he thought beneath him. How much courage. (Okay technically that's for Darcy, but Colin Firth embodies him so well.) My ideal Englishman. I think he's one of the reasons why I love England.
Okay that's all!
Labels: author: ji inn, celebrities and stars, themed entries
Wednesday, September 25, 2013 | 5:35 PM
As of September'13 while I'm writing and publishing this entry, the 20y/o me really want to meet and, more importantly, get a picture with:
1. Michael FassbenderAside from these 5, other celebrities I would love to meet are:
I just really like Fassbender and find him unbelievably handsome and charming. The chiseled face, seductive eyes, classic smirk, and when he speaks German EUYISFGXOEIUSRGDFOHIAJ I don't usually go crazy over foreign languages and accents but when he speaks German omggggggg.
Plus, he is so hardworking, which really appeals to me. Quoting GQ,"Michael's got a working-class attitude, in a good way," says Cronenberg, and Fassbender's approach does contain an element of manual labor. To prepare for a role, he'll read a screenplay as many as 300 times in daily shifts of seven hours.I am in love with this man. There is no movie of his that I wouldn't watch and take the opportunity to swoon over him.
2. Sir Ian McKellen
(Is it obvious by now that I also have a huge thing for Magneto?)Aside from the fact that he is proudly gay (which makes him super sexy to me for some reason), he always looks so jolly, and it is such a good look on him. He is incredibly sexy for a 74y/o man, oops I have mentioned sexy already? That's alright, you can never quit exclaiming how sexy he is because look at that face and that attitude. One little known fact about him is that he does theatre, and I can only wish I had the good fortune to watch him perform on stage.
3. Emma Stone
This girl is gorgeous and witty and hilarious. She has the best expressions ever. And she does her own stunts wtf?! Or at least she did on the indie "Paper Man", which called for her to jump into the freezing ocean. Her awesomeness cannot be contained in jpg which is why she's got gifs. I absolutely adore her.
4. Rachel McAdams
I've loved her since Mean Girls because she was such an awesome Regina George. And she keeps blowing me away every single time I watch her on screen. There is something incredibly sweet yet charming about this woman that I cannot pinpoint, and I just cannot seem to get enough of her.
Also, I am incredibly envious that she gets to work alongside Robert Downey Jr and Ryan Gosling and Channing Tatum etc. I want to be her in every little aspect, damn.
5. Jennifer Lawrence
Right up there on the hilarious charts together with Emma Stone, so gifs for this girl as well. Not only that, she's adorable and wacky and so damn relatable. Love her as Mystique, love her as Katniss Everdeen, love her as Tiffany Maxwell, and most of all, love her as Jennifer Lawrence. It's unbelievable how down-to-earth and real she is, and how she's still amazed by her success. She would, hands down, be my first choice celebrity BFF.
One Direction (not gonna lie, I love the boys)
Anne Hathaway
Tina Fey (omg yes please!!!!!)
Keira Knightley
Hugh Jackman
Leonardo DiCaprio
Christopher Nolan (does he count? I just really love his movies!)
Ellen DeGeneres
Jay Chou
Super Junior
I've met One Direction and Super Junior in my dreams. That was an incredibly awesome experience, but one day I really hope to see my favourite celebrities in person.
#adreamisawishyourheartmakes
Labels: author: madeleine, celebrities and stars, lists, themed entries
Tuesday, September 24, 2013 | 1:11 AM
I've wanted to post this for a while, and it was inspired by Tzu Hsiang.
Plenty of times we don't look around to realise how incredible the people around us are, and what they signify to us in our own lives.
So this is a post for the people around me - thank you for being who you are, and I'm blessed to know you. This list is far from exhaustive, but it'll do for now :)
My mum taught me many things. To be strong, to be kind, to be diligent, and to find many ways of getting to one place. Essentially also, to never give up on something you really want, even though that's a lesson I'm still reluctant to learn (there are times when it is unimaginably difficult). Cliche as it is, I felt this was the best starting point because my mum has shaped much of who I am.
The leaders around me (Ling Hong, Daryl, Sean) All of you together have taught me so much about leadership, and, collectively, this one big lesson: to invest in the growth of the people you lead. I am really very lucky to meet leaders who care so much about the people under them, and who have shown me what innovation, conviction and commitment mean.
Tzu Hsiang always surprises me. In good ways. I'm going to write a little more for this one, just so she knows what a gem she is.
Passion Reading about her own mad obsession with starting a magazine, many of the emotions resonated with me, and it's cool to see her chasing her dream. I'm impressed by the seriousness with which she went into it, and the quality of the work produced. Hope it works out well!
If you're curious, here it is: http://heartmagazine.sg/
Energy & Spontaneity despite always looking half-asleep and hugging everything from trees to sofas like a koala (TH aren't you glad I put a real koala instead :P), she's often game for new and spontaneous experiences. I love her for that because it's refreshing to meet people with so much energy and spontaneity, and it's hard not to catch on to her spirit and want to do things too.
Friendliness Something I always admire in TH is how she makes friends so easily. And she's so real that it's hard to fault people for liking her. If there's one thing I would want to learn from her, it's to be more friendly and genuine, and to take a real interest in the lives of people I don't know.
Her voice She has the most angelic voice when she sings, and so different from her usual, that it still surprises me when she sings. Again, if you're curious, here's her channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/speciallyi?feature=watch. Good things are worth sharing :).
Her authenticity (and sanity) I think what makes it hard to believe is how sane and authentic she is while being all that. She's very down-to-earth and authentic as a person, and cool precisely because she doesn't try to be. That's the part I love most about her <3 keep your head up!
Yup, that's all from me. Who are the people in your own life who mean something to you?
Inspired,
Labels: author: stella, family, friends and friendships, lists, personal
Friday, September 20, 2013 | 4:57 PM
Assuming physical attractiveness is not under consideration over here,
1. Unique, sexy voice
There was just this one guy whose mere voice sent tingles down my back. A long time ago. Not saying this is a pre-requisite, hahaha.
2. Easy to get along with
Some people have the special ability to make people around them feel comfortable, even if they've just met. I admire such people. They always seem to know just what exactly to say. It'd be really useful in a social setting.
On a more personal level, I think it's attractive when a guy can engage in a friendly banter with me. Some guys make me feel very awkward. There are very few who put me at ease when I'm talking to them. I might be more sensitive than other people, so a guy who makes me feel totally comfortable (I'm talking about genuine people, not those conniving bastards) is rare and a keeper. I walk away from these exchanges feeling upbeat and refreshed, and that's definitely a plus point.
3. Humorous/ Has a great sense of humour
I like to laugh, so I appreciate people who make me laugh. I'm not talking about the hur-hur, but the HAHAHAHA kind of laughter. If you can't, at least you have to appreciate good jokes. Life would be so much less without laughter in it. Perhaps it's not strictly necessary for a meaningful life, but laughter brings a lot of joy, and little bursts of joy are what will get me through mundanity.
4. Quietly confident and mature
I like guys who carry themselves well. Those that walk properly with a spring in their steps, not shuffling everywhere. Those who are comfortable with who they are. Some dancers have this kind of confidence -- they shine while owning the stage, and they glow even when they're not dancing. I'm looking to build that up myself. But you don't have to be a dancer to have that kind of confidence. Also, I don't like those flamboyant "I'm handsome and I know it" kind of people; that kind of confidence irks me.
Maturity is also something that impresses me. I group this with confidence because (well, apart from trying to squeeze more traits in) I think they come together. Guys who know how to take charge when needed and do the things that need to be done, who have the emotional maturity to not let negative emotions trip them over, who know how to treat people right, are very attractive. And I guess that's where the confidence comes in.
5. Gets along well with kids
I like playing with kids sometimes, but I personally can't stand screaming toddlers; I don't feel like coaxing them or whatever. But I find it endearing when guys are able to do that. Shows the kind of patience and tolerance level they have, as well as their mindset I guess. Plus I'd like to have kids of my own next time, so I'd appreciate a competent dad for a partner. (Bonus points if you're cool enough for our teenage kids to show off)
This is a rather randomly compiled list... that I just thought of off the top of my head. There are probably other traits that catch my interest, but I'll just stop here. Looking to do another reflection post soon, so look out for that! (:
Labels: author: ji inn, lists, love and relationships, themed entries
Tuesday, September 17, 2013 | 10:59 PM
So we're doing the flip side of the coin for this week, and I realise most of what is important to me (i.e. my dealbreakers) are the same things that would draw me to a guy.
Being a Christian is one thing, but I've come to realise that calling oneself "Christian" doesn't always imply a right walk with God. More important than simply being Christian, is where the guy stands with his faith in God. Haha I can't say that I find people attractive simply because they are in love with God, but I do know that I would hold someone in high regard for it.
In terms of attractive traits, I would say these:
1. Kind/Loves people
I find this quite attractive. When guys are kind to others, regardless of how they look or how difficult they are to love, I take notice. And I take notice especially when he does so in a gentle manner, which is something that is quite hard to get right.
2. Witty
I have always been in love with wit. I think of Oscar Wilde, Bernard Shaw, and their remarkably witty remarks. Winston Churchill too:
"I may be drunk, Miss, but in the morning I will be sober and you will still be ugly."
Of course, wit often borders on meanness and insults. Which is why the first criteria is important - balancing wit and kindness isn't easy, but it's an amazing combination. Somehow the quotes I love best are those by guys, whereas in daily life I think I run into more witty girls than guys.
Sometimes I feel like giving up on this trait because I very rarely meet guys who have wit and a good personality - in terms of niceness, dependability - but it's the one thing I find most attractive in people.
3. Easygoing
I think as a person I try to give space to others to be themselves, and I hate it when people are too picky or controlling over others (hence the dealbreakers haha). I'm drawn to people who do that for others: give them a comfortable space to be themselves and to feel at ease in their company. I like people who create a warm and inviting presence about themselves, and it makes me feel that I can introduce him to my friends without worrying about awkwardness.
4. Spontaneous
I love good surprises and spontaneous moments, so I would love someone who does things out of the ordinary. I think creativity is kind of implicit in this one, and a little creativity is good, but not too much. Because being imaginative and creative helps one to see possibilities, and that's something that allows me to enjoy the conversations I have with people a lot, but having too much can make one a little eccentric (haha no offense intended, but yeah).
5. Serious at the right time
At the same time, I think being serious about the right things/at the right time is important and it puts me at ease when I see that he knows what he's doing. I think girls are only naggy worrywarts insofar as the guys we're with don't give us confidence to trust them. But when a guy knows when to be serious, I'm happy to trust him.
Yup, and that's my list!
With love,
Labels: author: stella, lists, love and relationships, themed entries
| 12:30 AM
Now, on the flipside of the coin, we have 5 traits that are most attractive to us. I gotta say I'm kinda easily impressed though. I look at a guy concentrating at work and I think that's sexy. I see a guy practising his violin and I think that's cute. And my definition of good-looking is often more relaxed than most girls. So it's really not that hard trying to make me think that someone's very eligible.
1. DependabilityKinda obvious by now that I'm a huge Disney fangirl, huh? If a guy can identify a Disney scene/ song lyric easily, I get so impressed. Also, I just find it truly admirable when guys admit that they like Disney, and say it in a nonchalant way like it doesn't threaten their masculinity. Because it really doesn't. If anything, I personally would wanna marry a guy who would enjoy watching Disney films over and over again with me and our kids.
What a simple word, but it encompasses so many things. Financial dependability is the most straightforward one, because which woman does not want to be taken care of? Going further than that, stepping up to take charge of a situation shows me that he is in control of things, and that's always sexy. Think cool written all over his face, a steady and peaceful gaze, and a calm presence; we've got sex appeal shot through the roof.
Whew.
2. Intelligence and Ambition
I like being introduced to new and interesting ideas. So if you read a lot and know a lot and think a lot and analyse a lot and teach me a lot, chances are you'll be able to sweep me off my feet really quickly. More than that, guys who seek out new experiences and try to improve themselves and their understanding of the world tend to be people with drive and ambition. And that, is so important to me.
Honestly, it's kinda sad that Aladdin is the only Disney
dude who seemed smart in any way.
3. Sense of Humour and Fun
Humour's kinda like an aphrodisiac to me? If you can make me smile/ laugh the whole time when I'm with you, you've got found a shortcut to get me hooked. Taking it up a notch, if you are game to backpack, skydive and bungee-jump with me, I am yours for life. Besides, isn't it romantic, sharing the most thrilling moments of your life with each other?
If only everyday could feel like the best day ever. On another note,
Eugene looks like a husband waiting outside a lingerie shop. Fun!
4. Sexual Mastery
But only for me, ha ha ha. A great lover isn't easy to find; Skills can be picked up, but attention to all the details about his partner is not something that all guys are able and/or willing to do. I will try everything I can to satisfy my partner so I expect more or less the same in return. Being happy in bed together is kind of really very important to me.
Guys, practise a smoulder like that because it never goes wrong.
5. Fatherliness
I always get feel this sense of warmth when I see guys playing with kids, or even better, taking care of kids. If you can coax a crying child and aren't afraid to change a baby's diapers, you are definitely marriage material in my books.
Isn't King Mufasa just the best Disney dad though.
I guess I just added a 6th attractive trait, oops!
Till next time,
P.S. Jeanie and Stella are both single, so wait for their posts and see if you qualify! ;)
Labels: author: madeleine, disney, lists, love and relationships, themed entries
Saturday, September 14, 2013 | 8:48 PM
1. Non-Christian
I think the main reason for this is that I've liked non-Christian guys before and it causes a lot personal struggle. If loving God is the closest thing to my heart, I would want us to be able to worship and fellowship together, and to help each other grow in faith. In hard times as well, faith becomes a bonding rather than a dividing factor.
2. Not kind to people
When I first posted on dealbreakers in my lj, this came up as one of the really important things to me. I think it's important that he's kind not just to me, but as a person. I can't imagine everytime I want to reach out to help someone, and the one I love is the one holding back instead of stepping up before me or giving me courage to do so when I lack it. Being kind to people is something so basic, I don't think we'll even be standing on the same side of the page if he weren't kind.
3. Controlling
I value my freedom a lot so I hate it when people are controlling over me or others, it just shows a want of respect for another person's individuality and freedom to live their lives the way they want to. Even if it's trying to do what's best or show concern for me, I dislike it because I think I'm capable of making my own decisions and you have to respect that. Unless you're family, trying to control my life just gets on my nerves. I listen to people when they raise genuine concerns, and I expect that they trust me to listen and make the right decision in the end. That's what friends and family do for each other right?
4. Unable to accept my family
I know we're the ones in the relationship, but my family's important to me. I don't want to be in a relationship where I have to choose between my boyfriend and my family, or where my boyfriend is critical of my family. It's a dealbreaker if you can't accept my family and can't understand how much I want to love them. Also, I think it predicts how our own future will go, in terms of how much he can accept the rest of the family (me and the children) when we're imperfect or difficult.
5. Unable to communicate honestly with me
Like Maddie, I value open and honest communication. It's fine if we have issues to sort out, but if we can't talk about them they'll probably stay issues. If a guy can't be honest with me, I feel that it shows a lack of comfort and trust between us, and we probably wouldn't even be in a relationship.
Labels: author: stella, lists, love and relationships, themed entries
Tuesday, September 10, 2013 | 11:50 PM
The pretext of all these is that I'm interested in you/we're interested in each other. Otherwise there's nothing to talk about, yes?
1. Smokers and/or drug-abusers and/or heavy drinkers and/or physical/emotional abusers
Smoking's just really bad for you and me and everyone else. I don't want to have to breathe in all the secondhand smoke when we're together. Also, think about the kids! I don't think smoking's cool, anyway. Social smokers... not so bad but still preferably not (and my parents would never allow it).
Drug-abusers are an obvious no-no.
Drinkers - a little bit, social drinking is fine. But if you're the kind that starts doing weird stuff and spouting nonsense when you're drunk, and you're easily drunk, then you still keep getting drunk, then no.
And obviously I don't want to be abused, physically or emotionally or otherwise. Playful (SOFT) punches and the like are fine, of course. But don't pinch me. Will get bruises.
2. Liars (and by association, Cheaters)
Tiny little white lies to protect me are fine, but "i'm just going out for a drink with some buddies" when in fact you're hanging out with another girl alone, nope. I hope I'm not being too possessive or what over here, but if you're going out with someone else and you find it necessary to lie to me, that must mean there's something going on, right? I appreciate honesty. And I'll try not to restrict who you hang out with too much.
Cheaters - pretty much obvious. I'll never be able to stand you touching me again if I know you've touched someone else the same way. If it's an emotional straying, still no, because I can never believe the words you say to me anymore, and I won't live with that.
3. Prison Guards
Not literally (though I don't think any prison guard is of a suitable age for me..?), but if I'm trying to let you hang out with who you choose then I expect you to do the same for me. A little bit of jealousy is fine (cute, even), but please don't keep sticking to me, guard my every action and be suspicious of everything. Then again if you act like you don't care whenever I go out with other guys then I'll probably feel like you don't care, so yeah, balance it out a bit? I know, girls are so troublesome.
4. Immature Kids
I really hope I won't be role-playing mum right from the start. A bit of playfulness sometimes is great; I like having kiddy fun too. But I expect you to know when's the right time to be serious. This means you have to know how to take care of yourself and other people when necessary. That is, all the adult-ish things like managing your finances, doing basic household chores (yeahhh you have to help!), being courteous to elders -- basically being the adult you are. Be a man.
If you can't find a good job, I won't abandon you. As long as you have the intention (we Chinese call it the 'heart') to provide the best you can for your family, I'll support you. And if you mind me earning more, I'm sorry you're gonna have to live with it. (Though I don't really expect to earn that much haha)
5. Clamshells
I'm really talkative, so I really need you to be able to talk to me, else I'll be damn bored! I know I'm attracted to quiet, pensive guys (sometimes), but I'll need you to open up to me so we can at least manage some form of communication. Okay how about this. It's alright if you're just naturally quiet, but you have to be okay with me talking, and you cannot find me bothersome, and you'll also try your best to be engaged when someone is speaking (ha ha this isn't any different is it). The most important part is, you can't shrivel away when I "want to talk". Ie., when I have Really Important Stuff to discuss with you, like what's happening to our relationship, some problems within the family etc, you can't just run. I'm someone who really needs communication in the relationship to work things out.
I think I somehow managed to add in a lot more than 5 dealbreakers in there, yes? I guess if you're any of these people I won't really strike you out straightaway; as long as you're aware of the problem and put in a lot of effort to change, I can accept it (except maybe if you're a liar/cheater. I'll find it hard to trust you again after you've broken my trust). If you think "it's part of my personality" and "you shouldn't ask me to change", then okay bye! I mean, some personality traits are alright, but we have to draw the line somewhere. And I'll also try my best to be a good girlfriend/wife, so that's fair right? That's the point of communication, to discuss how to better love the other person.
Okay this is a lot, I know, and perfect guys don't exist, I know. But there are so many other things I haven't covered eg. flirt (excessively?) with other girls, bad sex, don't want children, different values --
I think I'd better stop here, else I'll never find a boyfriend.
Still idealistic,
Labels: author: ji inn, lists, love and relationships, themed entries
| 12:11 AM
Since I'm not a particularly picky friend, I'm gonna assume this theme is about relationship dealbreakers. I'm sure there are many relationship dealbreakers out there, but these are my top five. Here goes:
1. Dishonesty/ Not open to communication
How else are we suppose to figure out our issues? If you need some time, let me know that you need to sort things out within yourself, and I'll respect that you need to be left alone for a while. Don't simply close up and sweep the issues under the carpet. Our relationship will never work out if you are consistently unhappy, but refuse to tell me what is annoying you. And if you wait until six months later to unload all your resentment on me, sorry I've had enough and I'm out, because why didn't you want to iron things out at that moment in time?
2. Not being able to handle finances
I don't want to wonder how we're going to save up for an apartment while he is busy purchasing the newest iPad when he's got every single older model lying around in his room. I don't need to eat at fancy restaurants all the time, I don't need expensive gifts every monthsary, I just need you to show me that you'll pay the bill on time instead of splurging on the 20th new-phone-of-the-year. I guess it also shows the lack of responsibility, or even worse, the lack of a brain.
3. Lacks ambition
I'm a female, I need to feel like my partner is able to provide for the family. So if you cannot see where you wanna go in 5 years time and lack the drive to work hard for a decent lifestyle, then it's hard for me to picture a future together with you. I'm just not the type of girl who's prepared to ride it out without being able to what's ahead of me, and I'd hate for my partner to be this way because it makes me feel so insecure.
4. Being possessive
I'm not sure if it's me being an Aquarius obsessing over my ~space and freedom~, but I think I abhor possessiveness a lot more than the next girl. I absolutely cannot stand it when my guy gets possessive in the slightest way, especially if it's a new relationship that cannot be compared to my friendships that have been forged since almost forever. I understand and even appreciate the occasional jealousy, and I'd try my best to reassure my guy (hang out in groups instead of one-one-one, less physical affection like hugs, etc.), but I expect him to not suffocate me. Once I feel like he's gonna make me choose between him whom I've dated for a while and my buddies whom I've known for most of my life, I'm gonna drop him.
5. Awful sex
That douchebag who never agrees to explore what you wanna try, yet is unwilling to accept a "I'm not ready for that yet" for those you're hesitant about. Or that scumbag who provides zero foreplay, doesn't see a point in kissing you, and won't even bother looking at you. Or even that asswipe who sees only boobs and ass and vagina, and makes you gag. (I'm not even sure if I intended the pun, it just rolled off mytonguefingers.) Basically, no girl deserves to be stuck with a guy who makes every sex feel like bad sex. I guess from here you can tell my view about PMS.
I've been told it's odd that cheating, one of the most common dealbreakers, isn't one of my top five. To be frank, I don't totally believe in faithfulness, I think people just don't (allow themselves to) get tempted enough. I'm not saying I will cheat, or I will expect my partner to cheat; I'm just saying there's always a chance that anyone will experience infidelity. If he still wants me back, I might just take him back, which is why this is not in my top five. It's not the smartest thing to do, but it's something that I will very likely do. Conversely, if my relationship ends, it's not because I was butthurt at being cheated on, but because I don't need a guy whose heart is no longer with me. I just expect honesty over loyalty, y'know? Like if there's a girl coming into the picture, prepare me as soon as you can, and you can be with her without having to cheat on me. Or else it will get messy for her and you and me, when it doesn't have to be that way. You get what I mean? I'm not even sure if I make sense right now, but yea, that's just what I think.
I have rambled far too much now... But there you go, my top five dealbreakers!
Labels: author: madeleine, lists, love and relationships, themed entries, thoughts out loud
Thursday, September 5, 2013 | 10:00 AM
I don't have a super good memory, so here goes...
1. Mine by Taylor Swift
Braced myself for the goodbye
Cause it's all I've ever known
Then you took me by surprise
You said I'll never leave you alone
You said, I remember how it felt sitting by the water
And every time I look at you, it's like the first time
I fell in love with a careless man's careful daughter
She is the best thing that's ever been mine
That last line made me tear every time for the first few times I listened to this song. It's like for the first few stanzas of the song she's talking about how she fell in love with this guy and how right it felt, and then they fight and she's anticipating the break up because her own parents did the same. But then he turns around and tells her she is the best thing he ever had and it's touching to finally know that the guy, too, feels exactly the same way about her.
2. 半情歌 by 元若蓝
花，接受凋零
风，接受追寻
心的伤还有一些不要紧
我接受你的决定
你将会被谁抱紧
唱什么歌哄她开心
我想着天空什么时候会放晴
地球不曾为谁停一停
你的明天快不快乐
不是我的
我们的爱是唱一半的歌
时间把习惯换了，伤口愈合
也撤销我再想你的资格
I first fell in love with the song at the end of Sec 4, when I was being all emotional about a silly and impossible crush (lol). You know, this song probably had a part in shaping my 'world views', even if I didn't realise it. Very nice, very sad lyrics.
3. 会有那么一天 by 林俊杰
阿嬷泪水开始流
轻声说道
我要离去别再哭泣
不要伤心请你相信我
要等待，我的爱
陪你永不离开
I loved the twist and how the chorus fitted both scenarios perfectly. When ah ma's tears started flowing, mine started flowing too. Nothing much to relate to here since I never knew my grandparents, but the love story is still a very touching one.
The rest: Christina Perri's A Thousand Years, Jar of Hearts and Distance, Avril Lavigne's I'm With You and Keep Holding On, plus lots of Korean songs from drama soundtracks. I guess there's the context because they always play the same song at the sad scenes. But the above 3 I remember tearing, so there're up there. Yup that's all!
Singing in the shower,
Labels: author: ji inn, music and songs, sadness, themed entries
Wednesday, September 4, 2013 | 3:55 PM
Haha I don't listen to such songs precisely because they break my heart, so it's a little tough to think of a list. I can think of a few though:
1. A Thousand Years
I just can't stand how sad and beautiful it is at the same time. It makes me feel really really sorry for the person who had to go through that experience of being apart from the person he/she loves.
The chorus especially:
I have died everyday
waiting for you
Darlin' don't be afraid
I have loved you for a
Thousand years
I'll love you for a
Thousand more
Labels: author: stella, music and songs, sadness, themed entries
Tuesday, September 3, 2013 | 8:15 PM
If you chance upon this entry, you will instinctively know that all the songs below are because of you and for you. Because you're the only person who managed to, well, ruin me in the cruelest yet most beautiful way possible.Wow, this is going to be a rather long entry because there are many songs that are capable of
(a) wrenching my heart (b) tearing my heart into pieces
(c) making me tear (d) making me bawl
(e) making me curl in bed the whole afternoon
(f) making me lose mood for life
(g) all of the above
I'll try to keep the list as short as possible.
♥♥♥
Only One - Yellowcard
Made my mistakes, let you down
And I can't, I can't hold on for too long
I will never forget that night of bickering whether the original or the acoustic version sounds better. Sometimes I naively think that if I had agreed with you, perhaps you would have found it easier to hold on to whatever we had. I know things don't work this way, but what we shared was truly so innocent that that thought wouldn't have been strange at all. It's sad, knowing now that I can never love anyone else the same way I loved you so simply.
♥♥♥
搞笑/ Joke - 羅志祥/ Show Luo♥♥♥
还在搞笑是否拥有麻痹的疗效
唱一夜歌却避不开催泪的曲调
我彻夜胡闹, 希望听到有人会提到你好不好
唱一夜歌却避不开催泪的曲调
我彻夜胡闹, 希望听到有人会提到你好不好
This really resonates, because sometimes I find myself wondering if you are doing well. Sometimes I hate myself for being on a Facebook hiatus all those years, because why aren't we friends on Facebook so that I'd know how you are doing? But the occasional times when I chance upon a picture of you, I'd smile to myself thinking how happy you looked in the picture. I wish you happiness, always.
♥♥♥
I will never let you fall
I'll stand up with you forever
★ MADELEINE says:
see when the other person falls right
they will laugh leh
D says:
i know lol tsktsk
★ MADELEINE says:
but i know my bestfriend not so bad oneee (:
he will help me up if i fall into the waters :D
D says:
i wont even let you fall =)
♥♥♥
我不想忘記你/ I don't want to forget you - 郭靜/ Claire
我不想忘记你. 就算可以,
我宁可记得所有伤心
我想我宁愿一辈子为你伤心难过，守护着你在我心中的地位。这样空虚的心情，有谁能了解？也有谁会猜到，放下你之后的痛，竟然会比失去你的痛更痛。(Sorry for becoming cheena for a moment, there just wasn't a better way to express myself.)
♥♥♥
♥♥♥
Need You Now - Lady Antebellum
And I wonder if I ever cross your mind
For me it happens all the time
Same reason as the Chinese song above, and when translated in English, yes I'd rather hurt than feel nothing at all. It's been 6 years, and I find myself not minding that I still cry over what we'd lost. I like to remember you every now and then, to sadistically bask myself in every moment that I miss you. And because I can't properly express this in English: 痛是真的, 让我相信那份爱也是真的。
♥♥♥
一直很安靜/ Always been quiet - 阿桑
给你的爱一直很安静, 除了泪在我的脸上任性
原来缘分是用来说明, 你突然不爱我这件事情
I don't understand how, though so many people have walked in and out of my life, you're still the only one that comes to my mind when a song like this comes on. I've loved and lost so many times, but no one else was capable of making me feel as broken as you did. That last line just kills me every single time, I guess because that was your excuse as well.
♥♥♥
Talk about our future like we had a clue
Never planned that one day
I'd be losing you
This music video really speaks to me because why did I have to mess it up for us and drive you away? We had so many plans unfulfilled, and I'd always mourn the day right between our birthdays, the special day that we'd go out celebrating together... but we never got to. You were the one and only person I never planned on losing.
♥♥♥
不能握的手 从此匿名的朋友
其实我的执著 依然执著
却决心和你不再联络
不能握的手 却比爱人更长久
当所有如果都没有如果
只有失去的拥有 最永久
There cannot be a better song to describe all these feelings I have towards you. Every single line in this song drives a knife right through my heart because it feels like a song written for me. You will always be the closest stranger I never knew.
♥♥♥
Autumns Monologue - From Autumn To Ashes
Oh why can't I be what you need
A new improved version of me
Now you see me, now you don't
Now you need me, now you don't
Now you see me, now you don't
Now you need me, now you don't
Kill me already, hahahaha. This song just reduces me to a crying mess every time. It forces me to revisit every single memory and feeling I ever experienced with you, and I love it yet hate it at the same time. What makes this song even more amazing (and heartbreaking) is The Fiction We Live, which is kinda the guy's response of this song (it's included in this video, and start at 4:28). The title makes me think that everything was simply fiction, which is just so heart-wrenching.
♥♥♥我真的受伤了/ I'm Truly Hurt - 王菀之/ Ivana Wong
怎么你声音变得冷淡了/ 是你变了 是你变了
灯光熄灭了 音乐静止了/ 滴下的眼泪已停不住了
The perfect song to cry to when you feel that special someone drifting further than your heart can take. It's that feeling when you see the person so dear to you slipping away, but you don't really wanna face it cause you think you're just being paranoid. I'm sorry I didn't know how to express my concerns in a better way, but how do I show you how much I miss you when you're right in front of me?
♥♥♥
This time I think, I'm to blame
It's harder to get through the days
You get older and blame turns to shame
This song just makes me wanna beat myself up. Because it is true that over many years of reflection, all the hurt and anger evolves to become shame and self-blame. There are so many things I wanna apologise for and say to you, but I don't have the... right to be in touch with you... ever. It tears me apart.
♥♥♥
:'(,
Labels: author: madeleine, friends and friendships, love and relationships, music and songs, sadness, themed entries
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Ji Inn
Jean/Jeanie/Genie, a dreamer with an over-reactive heart
Ji Inn of all trades, mistress of none. Many things pique my interest but I haven't yet found my passion. I like both the arts and the sciences, and am open to everything in between and beyond. "Exploring" recently made its way into my list of hobbies.
If the thought of doing something scares me, that's when I know I have to do it. I believe in taking steps to better myself, in embracing challenges as a means of personal growth. This is a picture of me at Pulai Falls in Malaysia, taking risks and going out of my comfort zone. It turned out to be a marvelous place.
Madeleine
Mad/Maddie, studying in Perth, (falling) in love ♡This photo was captured while exploring the streets and alleys of Geraldton. I suppose it shows my enthusiasm for treading a different path and discovering the unexpected. And taking pictures with adorable graffiti. With obscene/ funny gestures (take your pick and we could either remain strangers or become friends).
On a less seemingly-nonsensical note, I love listening to marginalised voices narrating the other side of the story. (Which is why Wicked is one of my favourite musicals and my second major is Anthropology.) It opens my eyes, blows my mind, and captures my heart. Tell me your story and you might find yourself holding onto a piece of my heart.
Stella
Stella, Christian, writer, 20-year-old idealist
I like pretty photos and inspirational quotes. Words are my favourite way of communication - be it reading, writing or good conversations with people. This picture was taken at the old Bukit Timah railway. I guess it signifies journeys, and standing at the start of them. My favourite Disney song in Sec 3 was "At the Beginning" from Anastasia (a movie I love).
I have very few pictures with just me (I prefer being behind the camera haha or taking it with a friend). The little things can make my day - a smile, note or hug. You can read more on my blog at faithinbuilding.wordpress.com!