Tuesday, August 27, 2013 | 10:28 AM This week's themed entries are kinda RE: Ji Inn's previous post On Appreciation, because I was inspired by a particular line. If you really want to do something nice for someone, think about what that person places high value on, not what you place high value on.It really reminded me of Gary Chapman's love languages, and you'll see why in this excerpt taken from wikipedia (because obviously wiki is the best website to cite...) The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1995 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five ways to express and experience love that Chapman calls "love languages": gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. [...] He also writes that people should not use the love languages that they like the most but rather the love languages that their loved ones can receive.I think it's extremely important to know your loved one's love languages, so that you can make them feel adored in their own way. I remember saying something really nice to my boyfriend for the first time, and not being able to understand how he could feel soooo loved by a mere compliment.
Here's what I'm reading from my scores:
I'm kinda surprised that Acts of Service didn't get ranked higher. (I guess the scores went somewhere else...) Because I do feel exceptionally loved when a person goes out of their way to do something nice for me. Like when a housemate helps me to get rid of the spider in my room, or when friends pass me medicine when I'm not feeling well, or when the boyfriend accompanies me to the doctor. I'm just little ol' nondescript Maddie, why do I deserve all these nice things you people are doing for me?
Yesterday, I was just hanging out with a friend and I realised it was the second time that he was going through his pictures and pointing out random things like his family and pets and hilarious shots. So I just blurted out, "Why are you showing me all these?" He replied, so smoothly, something along the lines of showing me that he treasures this friendship. I just thought that was a really interesting and unique way to display affection, but I'm not exactly sure which category it falls under. Lastly, as a reminder: If I'm molesting you, I love you okay. I can't help it, I'm so sorry. ![]() Labels: author: madeleine, friends and friendships, love and relationships, themed entries |